Attract Women Fast – Being Non Reactive

by Kurt Spelling

Today I’m going to answer a question from one of my readers who asks:

“There’s one thing I have not found in your videos yet that I’m not sure of. The thing is I tend to get angry easily when someone pushes my buttons, or spills my beer, or generally is being a rude jerk whether by accident or not. I’ve been wondering if I should show my aggression, or if I should ignore it and move on. I think girls like jerks and want their guys to stand up for themselves and not accept being treated badly, but on the other hand, the girl just might get scared off. Have you got some advice on this issue? ”

Certainly!

Well what this comes down to is actually a very broad topic and subject, being non-reactive. When you cultivate a habit of non-reactivity, not only will you know how to attract women fast (hence the name of the title), you will also excel in all areas of your life. You gain massive stores of energy which you can spend on productive things, rather than reacting poorly to a negative situation. But, I’m getting ahead of myself, lets start with the basics.

Whoever is reacting more, in any situation, is lower value. Let’s take a typical example, meeting a really attractive woman in a club. If you’re talking to a hot girl and you’re reactive to her hotness, there will be a frame of “how can I please this girl?”

“What can I do for her? How can I make her like me?? Oh my god she’s so hot!!” Etc.
That’s you being reactive to her being hot and it makes you lower value than the interaction than her. Her mere presence is able to take over your emotional controls and make you behave in different ways. This is why it comes off so weak and low value. Definitely not the way to attract women!

Now the same thing applies if some guy spills your drink or is being a rude. If another guy says something like “Hey you’re a loser.” and you immediately react emotionally, then verbally with an angry reply or rebuttal, who’s being reactive? All he has to do to shake your reality and change your inner state is say five simple words? Can you see how this quickly becomes very low value behavior, and why it would be so unattractive to women?

So, when you ask if you should show your aggression or ignore it and move on, I think the correct answer is C: never feel the aggression period. This is how to truly attract women fast!

It’s a matter of wasted energy. If you are living in the jungle as a primitive human and a panther attacks you, you’re going to do everything you can to kill that panther or save your life. That’s not energy draining or wasted energy, but just a function of existing. You wouldn’t, as that same caveman, then take offense to the fact that the panther attacked you. You wouldn’t spend the next week telling all your caveman friends about this “jerk panther” and how horribly offended you are. That’s where the real energy loss is. You lose energy every time you take offense to something.

If someone said or did something in a way that you don’t approve of, if you carry it with you, it’s all baggage. It’s all lost, unproductive energy.

So if some guys is going to make a comment to you or spill your beer obviously you want to, you don’t want to be rolled over, but for most people it doesn’t really need to involve a reaction. For example, I currently have a fairly large afro hairstyle. The other day while waiting in line at a club, some drunk guy was behind me swiping his credit card through it. Once I noticed, this caused nothing more then a quick turn around, a look in the eye, a smirk, and a turn back. That was all the reaction necessary for the situation to get handled properly. It caused no negativity to spur within me, but through my non-reactive look, he felt silly. Had I turned around and screamed “That’s not funny you asshole!!”, then he probably would have gotten exactly the reaction he was looking for, and the situation would have escalated/drained my energy, and possibly ruined my otherwise awesomely fun night! The best part is, because of my non-reactivity, one of the women he was with was instantly attracted to me and later opened me for conversation.

Side Note: When you say that you think being a jerk is what girls like, that’s a common misconception. It’s not that girls like jerks, but girls like guys who are solid in their own realities and know themselves. What’s a jerk? A guy who has no problem being an asshole. He’s okay with that which means that he’s grounded in his own reality. He likes himself for who he is. He’s okay being a jerk. So he can attract women fast because he knows himself, NOT because he’s an asshole.

Now back to the main question, should you show your aggression or should you ignore it and move on?

If the situation calls for you do something aggressive, you do it, but that’s only when in a caveman versus panther type situation. If this guy is going to punch you in the face, obviously don’t let him! If he’s going to attack you defend yourself. But, If he’s going to call you a name, WHO CARES?

Not everyone in this world is going to like you. If you spend your life trying to make everyone like you you’re just going to be this watered down, crummy, fake version of yourself, who is just trying to make everyone like them and please everyone. You’ll be timid. You’ll be lame. And you won’t be fulfilling your life’s purpose, whatever that may be. Most importantly, you’ll have no idea how to attract women, because you’ll have no idea who you truly are. But I digress.

The real thing to gain from this is that reactivity is your enemy. You don’t want to be offended. Just don’t give a crap, and stop wasting your energy on being upset about this, offended by that, or pissed off about this. The more you stop wasting your energy on offenses, choosing to conserve it instead, the more powerful you become. You’re able to focus on what you want to do with your life. You’re able to focus on what your goals are. You’ll focus on that hottie over there and how good she’s looking and how badly you want to just go and talk to her and then you ACTUALLY GO and do it as opposed to standing in the corner talking to your friends about how that guy spilled his drink on you.

By being no-reactive, you put yourself in a position to quickly and easily attract women. This is really just the beginning though. If you haven’t gotten your hands on my Simple Seduction eBook Package, or my advanced DVDs “Authentic Seduction”, you need to learn more. You can get your hands on this information immediately and let it take your game to the next level.

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