Building Self Confidence Made Easy

by Kurt Spelling

If you have a lack of confidence, listen up. The title of this, building self confidence made easy, is not a gimmick. This is exactly how I would suggest someone starting to build real, true core self confidence.

First, if you haven’t taken my free approach seminar already, sign up with your email address now. It’s going to teach you how to approach girls and it’s going to quickly help you address your self confidence issues through tried and true exercises.

Now I’m going to get a bit more abstract in our conversation. Self confidence is not just about how girls react to you. That’s not confidence. Although it helps. Every time you talk to some women and they react positively, you get that reference experience and you get to feel good. From there it’s all a cycle of positivity and you get to feel better, so you approach more girls, and more girls will tell you that you’re cool, and so you feel better etc.

The problem is that cycle is dependent on other people’s reactions. So what you’re doing is you’re basing your self image off of someone else. So what some 21 year old girl with big fake breasts in the club has to say about you is how you’re going to base your self confidence? Sounds silly. Self confidence has got to be internal.

Here’s how to craft that internal self confidence. First thing is you need to declare your values. You need to start learning who you are as a person, what you’re into, what you stand for, what you don’t stand for etc.

Turn this into a list and read it daily, until you have it internalized.
This is very much inspired Jeffy, an RSD instructor. His values are a little different than mine, but he gave me the idea.

So who am I?

I’m an earth shaker.
I make things happen.
I’m a center of positivity.
I constantly add value to people’s lives and everyone I meet.
I’m non reactive to other people’s agenda.
I’m not judgemental of how other people choose to live their lives or hope to affect it in a positive way if I see I can help or add value.
Even when I’m approaching random women, I’m thinking win or lose I will make this person feel somewhat better.
I’m social.
I’m cool and I’m overall a good person.
I’m energetic, vital, fit and healthy.
I value my health.
I’m a winner, persistent and flexible.
I’m playful and fun and I bring this out in others.
I’m an inspiration to my friends, my family.
I’m confident.
I’m assertive.
I’m generous.
I strive to be an intellectual person.
I’m a student of life and ultimately I’m just a guy.
My game is a ten.

Now, that’s just an example taken from my life to get you thinking. It’s important to realize that these will need updating every year or two, as you grow and change and begin to value new things.

So, how does this all relate back to building self confidence? Well, those are some pretty deep thoughts on myself, what I value, and what I stand for. If you’ve never taken the time to set that up for yourself, you are probably missing out on knowing who you are. You might not consciously realize who you are.

Learning this will start developing your self confidence. If a girl violates your values and you go along with it, you’re cutting off your own balls basically and your body is going to respond to that with decreased confidence. If a girl does something that you just do not stand for, but then you just allow it to happen anyways, internally your subconscious knows that you’re being a pushover and inauthentic with your values.

Unless you’ve created this list, you’ll never get this message though because you’re conscious is not clear on the matter. Once you declare this list, you can start powerfully shaping your reality based on inviting in the things you value and disconnecting from those you don’t. That’s confidence. Knowing yourself and taking responsibility for your reality breeds self confidence.

This is the best place to start if you have a lack of confidence.

Now, I want you to look in the mirror. Look deep in your own eyes. Are you proud of what you see? Are you absolutely psyched to be you? You better be! You’re the only you that you EVER get. This is the fastest and easiest way to throw aside any kind of nonsense excuses like “I’m short.” or “I’m ugly.”

If you’re short, oh well man you’re short. I’m tall, whatever. It’s hard for me to sit on airplanes.

There’s only ONE you. Once you create your values and start realizing who you are and what you’re about, then you could start embracing your passions and really creating the life that you want. That’s when you can look in the mirror and say “Woo! I love me!”

I love me. It’s not a selfish thing. It’s exactly how you build self confidence. You should love you. If you don’t love you, figure out why and change it. If you don’t love you because you’re poor, what’s the action to take? I will find a better job or I’m going to create another income stream.

If you don’t like yourself because you have no girls in your life, what’s the action to take? Sign up for my seminar. Start learning how to approach girls. Start working towards building self confidence. The greatest thing about life is that if you don’t like something about your life, you can always change it.

As soon as you start taking those actions to create and change the things you want to change you’ll be able to start looking at yourself in the mirror with pride, excitement, and love! That’s confidence.

No girl at a bar could destroy my self image. I absolutely love myself too much for that. When building self confidence, that’s what you want to hone. It’s not a selfish thing. Its confidence. You can’t go to Tom Cruise and say “You know what Tom Cruise, you’re an idiot!” and have him be get upset and down about it. No way. He’s just going to be like “I’m not an idiot, I’m Tom Cruise! I love myself.”

So the same thing must begin with you. You must turn your lack of confidence into self love. If some girl that doesn’t even know you, can make fun of you in a bar and have you walk away with a depleted self image, you have to look at how concrete your self image is brother.

Do you know yourself? What do you value? What are you trying to do? What are you interested in? What do you want to create? What would you like to change? Who do you want to be? What do you want to stand for?

These kinds of things will create a core confidence that trumps any girls’ comments, any guys’ obnoxiousness, anything. The greatest part is that will begin to inspire people. When people see who you are, how you know yourself so well, and how unshakeable your self confidence is, they’re inspired by it. They think “Whoa, that guy is doing something right.” That’s when women just begin to fall into your lap, so to speak.

There’s a sea of men with a lack of confidence, and then there’s you. The shining beacon of hope for the male population!

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