Dating Advice – Embrace Your Identity
After being involved in the community for as long as I have, I feel this bit of dating advice is long overdue. This is some information that I notice a lot of men out there learning seduction and self-actualization really need. While it IS out there in bits and pieces, I’ve never really seen it comprehensively stated. This article is about how to embrace your true identity. It will improve your abilities with women, as well as help you live a happier more fulfilled lifestyle, guaranteed.
This is some dating advice that will sky rocket your success. So, let’s get started shall we?
The main issue I see is that most people are living by others’ definitions and standards. This is going to sound very much like a “Fight Club” style rant, but you are NOT the clothes you wear or how much money is in your back account etc. Too many people don’t even know why they do the things they do. And if you were to examine it, you’d realize that a lot of our actions are motivated by outside superficial influences.
Now I’m not saying to become anti-establishment. Buying the cool clothes or going to the hip clubs is totally fine, but you have to realize that these behaviors DO NOT define you. Every time you do something to live up to others’ standards, you dive further into being a tool. And let me tell you guys, the hottest, most high quality women, do NOT want to date a tool.
The first step toward avoiding this pitfall would be to define who you are and what you stand for. What are your morals? What are your dreams? What value do you bring to the world? What makes you AWESOME?!
Realize the fact that you are unique and bring a unique perspective to this world, different from ANYBODY else’s. So, if we are all different and all have different realities, you can really see why it’s messed up to try to live up to the “norm” or standard, whoever gets to decide that (social engineers – marketers – brain washers).
Here is the single most effective way to cultivate your identity and really live true to yourself.
Follow what feels GOOD. It’s that simple. Yup, that’s this epic piece of dating advice for you men out there. Follow what feels GOOD. Sounds simple right? Well let’s get further into it.
Whatever feels good to you inside is exactly who you are and what you should be doing. If you go to a club and don’t enjoy the energy there, then it’s not vibing with your identity, your life’s purpose.
Now this is a BIG difference from feeling socially uncomfortable, so it’s important to look inside and really examine feelings as they arise. Are you feeling bad inside because your self conscious, or are you authentically not in a healthy energy for your identity to flourish? This is important question to ask when developing yourself.
*Reader Question: “What’s the difference between being socially self conscious and uncomfortable and something not vibing with your energy?”
Good question. The difference is this. When you are self conscious you feel a bad vibe inside, but it’s self generated. When something doesn’t vibe with your energy, you can tell by the dissonance it creates, but it comes from outside of you. The important thing is to be able to get to the point where when something doesn’t vibe, it doesn’t matter or affect you. Being completely centered and in control of your reality makes you extremely attractive.
Look, the main thing I’m trying to relate is that whatever feels good to you is good for you and should be embraced. You need to realize that there is no “supposed to’s” when it comes to living life. Except for one. You’re supposed to feel GOOD. That’s the only reason we exist, is to feel good and expand thought. So, when someone tells you you’re “supposed to” buy these jeans, go to this college, get this job, hit on girls like this, dance like this, talk like this, walk like this, have sex like this, whatever…ask yourself “Does this feel good?”.
If the answer is an authentic yes, then you are embracing your true identity and expanding yourself. If not, then you know what you need to do. Search out and embrace who you truly are.
By living in this standard you will become exponentially better with women. Honestly, it’s some of the best dating advice I could be giving you guys. A man who is authentic with himself and others is extremely rare and refreshing. Just like a man who can express his emotions powerfully, a man who is committed to seeking his true self and happiness is incredibly attractive!!
How many social robots do you know? People who hate their job, buy useless crap they don’t need, go to trendy places they don’t even enjoy, and follow every band wagon are all being inauthentic with their true selves. Make a stand for yourself and women will find you magnetically attractive!
By defining who you are and what you stand for, you will take an introspective look that most men never bother to take. By actively seeking out actions, people, and places that add to your inner good feelings, you will be actively embracing your true identity. Becoming a man who is following his purpose will give you a social magnetism that women will find irresistible.
While this may seem like some abstract dating advice, I promise you guys it’s some of the core fundamentals of becoming magnetically attractive to women. This is some of the first important steps in realizing your true potentials with women. Are you ready to get serious and really unlock your power to attract the women you desire?
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