Flirting Signs – How to Know When She’s Interested
by Kurt Spelling
Today we’re going to talk about flirting signs. How do you know if a girl is flirting with you? If you’re like how I used to be you can probably relate to this story…
Once upon a time, two guys are standing in the club, when one says, “Hey man didn’t that girl just checked you out.”
Confused, his buddy starts questioning it. The friend again says, “I don’t know I think she looked at you. I think she smiled.”
Neither can decide if the girl was showing flirting signs, so they just do nothing.
Awful! Maybe if either of the men knew something about flirting body language, or flirty signs in general, they could have met the girl of their dreams. That girl could have very well been trying to get one of them to approach her, but because of their ignorance, they easily make excuse to not approach.
You need to know that the number one method girls use to get a guy to know that they’re flirting with him is eye contact.
When a girl makes eye contact with you and she keeps it for more than three seconds you know that she’s interested in you. That is how a girl says, “Hey I like you. Come over and talk to me. You’re hot!”
This is the most basic flirting sign you can look for.
The way our society works, girls are often shunned for being outward with their sexuality. For the most par,t unless a girl is very confident and really is the kind of girl who goes after what she wants, she’s not going to walk up to you like you want her to. She’s not going to talk to while you’re in the bar. You’re just going to stand there against the wall. She’s not going to come up to you and go “Hi I think you’re hot!”
What she WILL do though is give you a long look. She’s going to look at you from across the room and if you hold eye contact with her she’s going to smile. That smile is like saying, “Come approach me right now!”
If you don’t go and approach her right then you’re just shooting yourself in the foot. She will lose attraction very quickly because she’ll see you are too weak to respond to her flirting signs.
So when a girl looks at you that is the number one sign, it’s what they call an approach invitation.
Now, here are some other signs when to know that she’s flirting with you. If she asks you your name, she’s usually very interested. Now this is huge because it’s almost as if she just HAD to know. If you come over and you’re talking about something random and she spontaneously bursts in with, “What’s your name?” If it comes off as she just had to know, then that’s definitely one at least one flirting sign. It’s good to know these signs because it’s going to tell you if you can increase the kind of intimacy that you’re having with the girl. Obviously, if she’s completely conveying flirting body language and signs, then she’s interested in you being more intimate.
Another really prominent sign of a girl flirting with you is when she’s twirling her hair or maybe just stroking it a little bit while she gives you the eye. That’s definitely a sign of flirting. Girls either consciously or subconsciously know that this conveys interest. So they’ll either consciously or subconsciously fall into that habit when they’re talking with men who they’re interested in.
Another sign you should definitely know is to look for flirting body language. If a girl is interested in you her body language will tell you. There’s a lot of little subtleties to body language, but the main two things that you can start looking for is direction and interest. If she is clearly directed towards you and clearly leaning in then she’s showing flirting body language. If her body language shows disinterest she’ll be more directed away from you. She’ll be leaning back. She’ll be not focused on you.
So, if her body language is hinting to the fact that her interest is focused on you then you know it’s a clear sign that she’s interested in you. One more flirting sign I want to go over, is if she consistently laughs at your jokes, especially if they’re not even that funny! You can be positive that she’s interested in you because at that point it’s a psychological thing. She has already decided in her head I am interested in this guy. So that’s her new reality. She looks at you as an interesting, sexually appealing guy. As a result, she’s going to do everything she can to validate that decision. Everything she’s getting from you she’s going to look at in the best light possible, which makes her go “tee-hee”, even at the bad jokes.
If you find a girl laughing at your dumb jokes she’s definitely interested in you, and if you find a couple of these different flirting signs all from the same girl, then you can definitely go for the kiss or wherever you’d like to go for with that girl.
Now it’s important to realize that telling these signs apart from just normal behavior comes with time. Time and experience! I would keep reading and get as much information as possible. You can start with my Simple Seduction system. It will take you down a path towards true success with women.