How to Approach Women – Authenticity is King!
by Kurt Spelling
Today’s article covers one very important point which is crucial to learn if you truly want to know how to approach women. While it may sound simple, embracing this one principle really brought my game to a new level. Approaching women is incredibly simple once you learn how to do it properly.
What I’m Talking about here is authenticity. This article is in response to a reader who asks:
“How can I approach and hit on a girl without making it so obvious that I am hitting on her?”
My response; Why would you want to make it seem as though you’re not hitting on her? I mean, you ARE hitting on her! That’s why this is all about authenticity. Let’s look at the two major philosophies of game, and how they approach women.
On one hand, you have my style, very much RSD inspired and all about natural game. On the other hand you have the mystery method style of game, complete with sets of pre-written opinion openers, canned routine, canned stories, and all of the bells and whistles you need to try to trick women into bed.
What you’ve got to realize is that when you approach women with a canned line or routine, it just reeks of inauthenticity. This is definitely not how to approach women! Being inauthentic with yourself and your desires will cheat both of you out of experiencing any real moments of intimacy.
The fact that you’re not being honest with the situation is an undertone that will prevail throughout the entire interaction. It’s as if you’re out at the bar behaving like a used car salesman. Women you approach get the feeling of, “Why is this guy asking me this question? What’s he trying to get at?” If you go up to a girl and you have a canned question and internally you don’t actually care about what her answer is, then you’re being inauthentic.
Women are naturally very intuitive and will pickup on this immediately. So, if your fear is to have girls think that you’re hitting on them, then you have to realize that that’s not what your truly afraid of. What you’re truly afraid of is putting yourself out there, authentically.
The REAL you.
What you should really be afraid of is being inauthentic because it’s low confidence. It’s just an overall negative experience for everyone involved. You’re saying this canned line, she’s wondering what you’re really getting at, there’s no realness to it and it’s all just a big mess.
How to approach women with authenticity:
When I see a cute girl, my initial reaction is to just stop for a moment and take her in. I’ll give it a moment to let her hotness sink in, and then approach. Usually I’ll say something along the lines of “Hey You’re really cute I wanted to come meet you. What’s up I’m Kurt.”
Now that’s just fun for everybody. It adds value in every way. Even if nothing comes of the situation, you made her day that much better by letting her know that you authentically find her attractive.
So, authenticity is king. A girl SHOULD know you are hitting on her. The girl should feel sexually threatened by you at that moment. This is how she’ll be sure as hell that you are being congruent with what you’ve said.
You DO find her attractive and you’re displaying it on all levels, consciously and logically with what you’re saying and subconsciously with the energy you bring. So ask yourself, how do you want to approach women? Like an authentic male or like the used car salesman?
This will get you moving in the right direction, but don’t forget my books and DVDs are always available to help you reach your true potential with women. My Simple Seduction eBook Package is a great place to start! Learn more here:
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